TEXT A A common result of being
frustrated is an act of aggression, sometimes violent. To be alive is to have a
goal and pursue it—anything from cleaning the house, or planning a vacation, to
saving money for retirement. If somebody or something blocks the goal, we begin
to feel pent up and thwarted. Then we get mad. The blocked goal, the
sense of frustration, aggressive action—this is the normal human sequence. If we
are aware of what is going on inside us, however, we can save ourselves a good
deal of needless pain and trouble. Everyone has encountered
frustration on the highways. You are driving along a two-lane road behind a big
trailer-truck. You’re in a hurry, while the truck driver seems to be
enjoying the scenery. After miles of increasing frustration you grow to hate
him. Finally you step on the gas and pass him defiantly, regardless of the
chance you may be taking. This kind of frustration must cause thousands of
accidents a year. Yet, if you realized what was going on in your nervous system,
you could curb such dangerous impulses. The aggressive act that
frustration produces may take a number of forms. It may be turned inward against
oneself, with suicide as the extreme example. It may hit back directly at the
person or thing causing the frustration. Or it may be transferred to another
object— what psychologists call displacement. Displacement can be directed
against the dog, the parlor furniture, the family or even total
strangers. A man rushed out of his front door in Brooklyn one
fine spring morning and punched a passerby on the nose. In court he testified
that he had had a quarrel with his wife. Instead of punching her he had the bad
luck to punch a police detective. Aggression is not always
sudden and violent; it may be devious and calculated. The spreading of rumors,
malicious gossip, a deliberate plot to discredit, are some of the roundabout
forms. In some cases, frustration leads to the opposite of aggression, a
complete retreat from life. The classic pattern of frustration
and aggression is nowhere better demonstrated than in military life. GIs studied
by the noted American sociologist Samuel A. Stouffer in the last war were found
to be .full of frustrations due to their sudden loss of civilian liberty. They
took it out verbally on the brass, often most unjustly. But in combat, soldiers
felt far more friendly toward their officers. Why Because they could discharge
their aggression directly against the enemy. Dr. Karl
Menninger, of the famous Menninger Foundation at Topeka, pointed out that
children in all societies are necessarily frustrated, practically from birth, as
they are broken into the customs of the tribe. A baby’s first major
decision is "whether to holler or swaller"—when it discovers that the two acts
cannot be done simultaneously. Children have to be taught habits of cleanliness,
toilet behavior, regular feeding, punctuality; habits that too often are
hammered in. Grownups with low boiling points, said Dr.
Menninger, probably got that way because of excessive frustrations in childhood.
We can make growing up a less difficult period by giving children more love and
understanding. Parents in less civilized societies, Menninger observes, often do
this. He quotes a Mohave Indian, discussing his small son: "Why should I strike
him He is small, I am big. He cannot hurt me." When we do
experience frustration, there are several things we can do to channel off
aggression. First, we can try to remove the cause which is blocking our goal. An
individual may be able to change his foreman, even his job or his residence, if
the frustration is a continuing one. If this cannot be done,
then we can seek harmless displacements. Physical outlets are the most
immediately helpful. Go out in the garden and dig like fury. Or take a long
walk, punch a bag in the gym, make the pins fly in a bowling alley, cut down a
tree. The late Richard C. Tolman, a great physicist, once told me that he
continued tennis into his 60s because he found it so helpful in working off
aggressions. As a writer I receive pan letters as well as fan
letters, and some of them leave me baffled and furious. (Some, I must admit, are
justified.) Instead of taking it out on the family, I write the critic the
nastiest reply I can contrive. That makes me feel a lot better. Next morning I
read it over with-renewed satisfaction. Then I tear it up and throw it in the
wastebasket. Aggression gone, nobody hurt. But perhaps the best
way of all to displace aggressive feelings is by hard, useful work. If both body
and mind can be engaged, so much the better. The world is filled
today with a great surplus of anger and conflict. We are far from knowing all
about the sources of these destructive feelings, but scientists have learned
enough to clear up quite a load of misery. Their findings can help us reduce
that load and even utilize its energy, through a better understanding of
ourselves and our neighbors. Why are some adults easy to lose their temper according to Dr. Menninger
A.They probably grow up in poor families. B.They are born to experience failures. C.They probably have been spoiled by indulgent parents. D.They may have received undue frustrations in childhood.