Being assertive (过分自信) is being able to communicate with other
people clearly. If you felt that you had expressed what was important to you
and al- lowed the others to respond their own way, then, regardless of the
final out- 62. ______ come,
you behaved assertively. It is important to remember that being asser- tive
refers to a way of coping with confrontations. It does not mean getting your
own way every time or winning some battles with another person. In
63. ______ practice,
assertive behavior is usually most likely to produce a result which
is generally acceptable to all concerned, without anyone feel that they have
been 64. ______ unfairly
treated. Assertiveness is often wrongly confusing with
aggression. An aggressive
65. ______ confrontation is when one or both parties attempt to put
forward their feelings and beliefs at the expense of others. In an assertive
confrontation, however, each party stands up for their personal rights, and
each shows respect and un- 66.
______ derstanding for the other’s viewpoint. The reason why
assertiveness may not come naturally is what we often
67. ______ tend to believe
that we must talk around a subject rather than be direct, or that we must
offer for excuses or justifications for our actions.
68.
______ In fact, we all have a right to use assertive behavior in
a various of situa- 69. ______ tions. We
are often schooled early in life to believe that sometimes our own need to
express ourselves must take second place. For example, in dealing with
70. ______ those in privileged positions
such as specialists, we often feel that speaking as- sertively is, in some
way, "breaking the rules".
71. ______