Winning is often the result of persistence, of not giving up when your goal appears to be in jeopardy. "When you adopt the attitude that if you do something it will make a difference, that"s confidence," Rosabeth Moss Kanter, author of the bestselling book
Confidence
says. "Look at your situation and think of yourself as being in the middle of it. The story is rarely over, even when the great majority think it is—something every sports fan knows."
Kicker Adam Vinatieri helped the New England Patriots football team defeat the Miami Dolphins 27—24 on December 29, 2002, when he kicked a 42-yard field goal in the final seconds, after many spectators had already got up from their seats to make their way out of the stadium. This event got fans saying, "It"s not over until Vinatieri kicks." Sure enough, in the 2004 Super Bowl, Vinatieri kicked the game-winning points for the Patriots in the final few seconds.
Certainly, there will still be moments and situations that just aren"t going to go your way, and this is the time when confidence needs to be tempered by realism. If you believe in yourself so strongly that you act rashly, confidence can actually make you "stupid".
So handle it with care—and use your confidence wisely.