现代心理学家对“双赢”解决办法很感兴趣。但在婚姻中，成功更取决于“双输”解决办法。有了这些解决方案，双方就都能获胜。因为在爱的关系中，输是送出一份总会有回报的礼物。婚姻关系中关键的问题是：准将掌握控制权人们往往把放弃控制权与软弱混为一谈。但在家庭之争中的胜利者从来都不是真正的胜利者。在你赢得斗争而你的伴侣屈服时，你已经输了。这听起来似乎自相矛盾，却千真万确。因此请记住：如果你想感到被爱、被尊重，就放弃控制权。如果你想在家庭争论中获胜，就得学会在争论中认输。

A. The public is surrounded by various violence and lies.
B. So far we are deeply immersed in the culture of war.
C. Nuclear weapons are vivid expression of a culture of war.
D. There is another arms race in someplace of the world.

A. It was the foundation of the research
B. It was the groundwork for the research
C. It was the research that was coded
D. It was the example used for the coding