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It often appears that we have more to gain by speaking than by listening. One big advantage of speaking is that it gives you a chance to control others’ thoughts and actions. Whatever your goal--to have a prospective boss hire you, to (36) others to vote for the (37) of your choice, or to describe the way you want your hair cut-the key to success seems to be the ability to speak well.
Another (38) advantage of speaking is the chance it provides to gain the (39) , respect, or liking of others. Tell jokes, and everyone will think you’re a real wit. Offer advice, and they’ll be grateful for your help. Tell them all you know, and they’ll be (40) by your wisdom. But keep quite.., and it seems as if you’ll look like a worthless nobody.
Finally, talking gives you the chance to release energy in a way that listening can’t. When you’re (41) , the chance to talk about your problems can often help you feel better. In the same way, you can often lessen your anger by letting it out (42) . It is also helpful to share your (43) with others by talking about it, (44) .
(45) . As you’ll soon read, being a good listener is one good way to help others with their problems; and what better way is there to have others appreciate you As for controlling others, it may be true that it’s hard to be persuasive while you’re listening, (46) . Like defensiveness, listening is often reciprocal:you get what you give.