A growing number of women out-earn their partners. Famoosh Torabi, a personal finance expert based in Brooklyn, N.Y., and author of When She Makes More: 10 Rules for Breadwinning Women, has advice for (26) financial fiction (冲突): First, transcend gender roles. "Develop a system with your partner that works in terms of (27) labor or child care, and not about ’I’m the woman and you’re the guy,’" says Torabi, who is the (28) in her family. If your husband oversees all food, then let him take it on in full—buying groceries, feeding the kids, cooking and so on. Second, consider hiring outside help. Breadwinning women feel a lot of pressure to keep the (29) turning, but they don’t have to juggle everything, Torabi says. "Consider the value of outsourcing some aspects of your life, such as (30) , office work or cooking. Do the math and make sure that whatever you are paying is (31) what your time is worth." Third, know it can all change. If women are dating and are already earning more than their partners when they’re dating, they are probably already navigating issues around money. But once they marry and have kids, even if the male previously earned more, (32) and other career instability means "it can all flip tomorrow," Torabi says. Being comfortable with family roles is (33) —particularly when children are watching how their parents (34) . "At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter who makes (35) ," she says. "What’s important is that Morn and Dad are happy in their chosen roles.\