Sometimes teens need to have some time away from their families. They may want to move out of the family home for a while.
Many parents will say no to this demand. But experts say it might be a good idea to let your teens live with a friend or relative.
"It was the break I needed at the time," said Richard Lerner. He is talking about the time he spent living with his grandmother when he was 15.
"It allowed me to be a different person than I was with my parents." Lerner said. He now heads the Institute for Children, Youth and Families at Michigan State University.
Experts say teens living away from their families can test new ways of thinking and getting along with people. They may see new solutions to problems.
This is different from running away, the experts stress. Runaways are often fleeing serious problems.
Some teens who want some time away from family attend a
structured
summer program. Others live for a while with a relative or with the family of a friend.
If there is conflict at home, having a teen live elsewhere can benefit other family members. It gives everyone space redevelop better relationships.
Joseph Kett teaches history at the University of Virginia in Charlottesville. He says living at home until the late teen years has become the norm only in recent times.
"In the 17th century, children were often sent to live in other people"s homes when they were about 10 or 11," he said.
Peter Sheras teaches education at the University of Virginia. He said parents should listen when a child wants to move out. They should try to find out why the child wants some time away.
Often, parents can help the child find a safe place to stay during that time. In other cases, they can meet the child"s needs at home. When children seriously disagree with their parents, experts suggest that parents should ______.
A.punish them B.let them live away from their families C.send for a teacher D.keep them in the house